December 2021
I am finally revisiting this blog. It has been quite a journey these past
two years with the pandemic restrictions in tow and still about. Yet, in spite
of difficulties, loss, and trials, life continues to bless me with good health
and surroundings. Moving to Maui in 2019 was a major decision I'm still
pondering about. I left the support of many friends in Portland and feared that
somehow I'd be alone on this island with this new life I've taken on. But then,
I realize that I'm never alone. Even with his death 6 years ago, I still have
my husband with me, in my heart where he'll always reside. And of course,
making friends on the Aloha island is easy and already I've a community of
close friends which support each other.
And, here in Maui, with endless summers, constant trade winds and beautiful
scenery of ocean and mountains, I've come to believe I've been offered a slice
of heaven. Though, in reality, if the mind is clear and unhindered, any
season or place is a good one. Wherever I am, alive at eight decades and more,
with good health during a serious pandemic and strong energy, seems short of a
miracle and true blessing. At the same time, I'm aware of others not as
fortunate, grieving for loved ones lost, struggling, confused and drawn into an
atmosphere rife with anger, division and hatred.
And, even in what seems heavenlike, there is sadness. My only living brother
who passed away in early 2020 made me an orphan as he joined my parents and
other siblings to a shore welcoming the dead. Besides my brother, other dear
friends recently passed away, creating more sadness and the need to reach out
to loved ones and friends, expressing my love for them. The year of 2020 seems
a lost year for many, even dreamlike, as we attempted to keep in touch
digitally. For others it produced more creativity in music, painting, writing,
poetry, and published works of fiction and nonfiction.
Before the pandemic, after the publication on Wife, Just Let Go I was
encouraged to share my experiences in caregiving for my husband who had
Alzheimer's. To those who are struggling with your own caregiving experiences,
take heart in knowing that your loved one is still with you and there are
still ways to express the profoundness of your own love. If you've
already lost your dear ones, please know that in honoring them in their
transitions, you lift your own sorrow. Shifting the focus from yourself to your
loved ones, blessing them with ease and peace, blesses you too in your union
with each other.
I encourage you to reach out to me if you've any questions. I will be happy
to help.
Just now, the tears shed express a profound love rising from your heart to
theirs.
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In the summer of 2021, I shared some insights into my practice of Zen and Tea (Chado) with Seattle Watermoon Dojo (One Drop Zendo, Seattle).
Below is a flyer created for that event. Since it has already passed, for those who wish to hear this talk, they can do so at:
www.watermoondojo.us
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