Zen, Alzheimer's, and Love

Zen, Alzheimer's, and Love



A story of enduring love between two authors with a deep interest in poetry, Beat literature, Zen, art and music, and includes poems and passages written during the heartrending experience of Alzheimer's, care-giving, and death.

Thursday, March 30, 2023

MY SISTER MEDA, A MEMOIR OF OLD SINGAPORE

 




MY SISTER MEDA, A MEMOIR OF OLD SINGAPORE is based on direct experiences.   The book describes growing up in colonial Singapore in a Sephardic Jewish family in pre-and-post WW2.  My family was part of a Sephardic Jewish community, an enclave of settlers from Baghdad who came to Singapore in the 19th century in search of freedom and prosperity from persecution in Iraq.  My sister was key to our exodus from Singapore at a time when the island was going through political difficulties.

After leaving Singapore, I traveled extensively as a flight attendant with Trans World Airlines, studied yoga, and in the 1970s developed a program that dealt with modern stress. Growing up in early Singapore, I was influenced by the many different cultures of Singapore’s population.  An interest in Buddhism later led to an exploration of Zen and Chado, practices that continue to influence my life.  

My published books include: Wife, Just Let Go: Zen, Alzheimer’s, and Love (2017, a duo-memoir with my husband Robert Briggs (then diseased) of my experiences in caregiving as he struggled with Alzheimer’s. I’m also the author of Tea and Ceremony: Experiencing Tranquility with an introduction by Deng Ming-Dao (2004), The Common Book of Consciousness, Taking charge of your life through diet, exercise, and meditation, introduction by Kenneth Pelletier (1991)and Four Hands: Green Gulch Poems (1987).  My poems of haiku and tanka are published in New Bridges: a Haiku Anthology (2018) as well as other Journals including Cattails and Moonbathing. 

I’ve received many positive reviews on MY SISTER MEDA, A MEMOIR OF OLD SINGAPORE among them are:

“My Sister Meda, A Memoir Of Old Singapore, is a story that’s visual, engaging, and memorable, a story about family, human relationships and love in a once British colony. Saltoon, who’s family was part of the Baghdadi Jewish diaspora seeking a safe harbor in Singapore, describes the island’s beauty, its multicultural attractions and cuisine, from the bright colors and rich spices of Serangoon Road, to the ritual and solemnity of the local Synagogue (now a national monument).  She then shows a darker side of Singapore, the Japanese occupation and internment in Sime Road Camp during WW2 where she and her family were imprisoned. But it is her sister Meda, who later, through an unusual chance correspondence to a man she falls in love who changes their lives.  Her marriage to an American in Hawaii paves the way for an exodus of the family to a new life in the Unites States at a time when Singapore was transitioning from British rule to independence.” 

- Dr. Kenneth Pelletier

 

"Diana Saltoon has accomplished the near impossible: the weaving of family and history without becoming sentimental. She faces the hardships of pre-war Singapore, all the while weaving not one but many family stories. My Sister Meda: A Memoir of Old Singapore sheds light on the little known world of the Japanese occupation of Singapore. The family's internment in the Sime Road Camp and her recounting of the Sephardic Jewish experience belongs in every public and school library across the globe." 

 

- Terry Ann Carter

  From Publishers Weekly:

 "With careful research and elegant prose, Saltoon pays moving homage to her family in this memoir of Sephardic Jews in the colonial Old Singapore. Saltoon tells the story in evocative scenes (“she promised him the best satay in Singapore, if not the world, served by a humble Malay vendor called Jalak out in an open-air site off the road”) and occasional poetry, tracing the family’s origins and capturing the texture of daily life in a Short Street townhouse in a neighborhood “of Chinese, Malays, Eurasians, as well as other Mahalla Jews.

The inevitability of World War II, though, looms over the island colony, and Saltoon offers illuminating background about international politics of the era as well as eye-opening accounts of life in internment camps during the Japanese occupation. Saltoon’s story opens with the origins of her parents, with mother Girjee, renamed later as Grace, born in Baghdad, and sent to far-off Singapore to marry. Little was expected of Nassim, her father, who was afflicted with a stammer and uncontrollable trembling, as he entered adulthood in a Jewish home in Singapore. Their union, the result of a matchmaker, produced not only several healthy children but a confident couple of high standing within their community. Saltoon beautifully lays out her parents' lives, and Grace stands as an example of strength as she persists in her sewing, catering, and envisioning of a grand future despite her worsening vision.

Saltoon’s sister, the beloved Meda of the title, eventually pulls the family from conflict zones and camps with the help of her American husband. Readers follow alongside each of the adult children as they find love and purpose in their lives. Detail into the family’s transition as they fled the East and transitioned into Western life comes through insightful correspondence, revealing their feelings about these changes in real time. This memoir is an act of history and of love."

Takeaway: The fascinating history of a Jewish family’s life in Old Singapore.

Comparable Titles: Joan Bieder’s The Jews of Singapore, Marvin Tokayer and Ellen Rodman’s Pepper, Silk and Ivory.

Production grades
Cover: B
Design and typography: A
Illustrations: A-
Editing: A
Marketing copy: A

Print Date: 05/01/2023

 

Wednesday, March 29, 2023

LATEST REVIEW FROM PUBLISHERS WEEKLY: "MY SISTER MEDA, A MEMOIR OF OLD SINGAPORE"

 


"The fascinating history of a Jewish family’s life in Old Singapore."

With careful research and elegant prose, Saltoon pays moving homage to her family in this memoir of Sephardic Jews in the colonial Old Singapore. Saltoon tells the story in evocative scenes (“she promised him the best satay in Singapore, if not the world, served by a humble Malay vendor called Jalak out in an open-air site off the road”) and occasional poetry, tracing the family’s origins and capturing the texture of daily life in a Short Street townhouse in a neighborhood “of Chinese, Malays, Eurasians, as well as other Mahalla Jews.”

The inevitability of World War II, though, looms over the island colony, and Saltoon offers illuminating background about international politics of the era as well as eye-opening accounts of life in internment camps during the Japanese occupation. Saltoon’s story opens with the origins of her parents, with mother Girjee, renamed later as Grace, born in Baghdad, and sent to far-off Singapore to marry. Little was expected of Nassim, her father, who was afflicted with a stammer and uncontrollable trembling, as he entered adulthood in a Jewish home in Singapore. Their union, the result of a matchmaker, produced not only several healthy children but a confident couple of high standing within their community. Saltoon beautifully lays out her parents' lives, and Grace stands as an example of strength as she persists in her sewing, catering, and envisioning of a grand future despite her worsening vision.

Saltoon’s sister, the beloved Meda of the title, eventually pulls the family from conflict zones and camps with the help of her American husband. Readers follow alongside each of the adult children as they find love and purpose in their lives. Detail into the family’s transition as they fled the East and transitioned into Western life comes through insightful correspondence, revealing their feelings about these changes in real time. This memoir is an act of history and of love.


More Reviews forthcoming!




Wednesday, March 22, 2023

NEW PUBLICATION! "MY SISTER MEDA: A MEMOIR OF OLD SINGAPORE"

 MY SISTER MEDA:  A MEMOIR OF OLD SINGAPOREa book I've been working on for many decades, is finally published!   I'm happy to be making this announcement.  I hope you’ll take a look at the flyer and the testimonials already received. The photo has a direct link to the book. Please share this announcement as much as you can and help give this book a great launch!  

 



Thursday, December 30, 2021

 December 2021



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Plumeria
shedding blossoms
on the grass
teach the beauty
of letting go

 

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Greetings!

Wishing you all Happy Holidays and a very fortuitous, peaceful New Year! As we shed the old for the new, may 2022 bring blessings of contentment, equanimity, good health and joy. 

 Life in Maui continues with moments of connection and sharing within a circle of friendship that keeps widening inclusively. Zen and Tea are wonderful ways of doing this and friends are forever teaching new ways to be present, involved, and actively engaged beyond our community. With times as they are (and always have been) the season invites us to be contemplative, mindfully vigilant as we discover new ways of seeing and accepting others with eyes of kindness and compassion. The phrase “ichigo ichie” (unprecedented, unrepeatable) recurs as a reminder of the fleetingness of each moment.  Thus, let us treasure each other and the bountiful beauty of nature.

May all beings be at peace and happy! diana keishin 



December 2021

I am finally revisiting this blog. It has been quite a journey these past two years with the pandemic restrictions in tow and still about. Yet, in spite of difficulties, loss, and trials, life continues to bless me with good health and surroundings. Moving to Maui in 2019 was a major decision I'm still pondering about. I left the support of many friends in Portland and feared that somehow I'd be alone on this island with this new life I've taken on. But then, I realize that I'm never alone. Even with his death 6 years ago, I still have my husband with me, in my heart where he'll always reside. And of course, making friends on the Aloha island is easy and already I've a community of close friends which support each other.

And, here in Maui, with endless summers, constant trade winds and beautiful scenery of ocean and mountains, I've come to believe I've been offered a slice of heaven.  Though, in reality, if the mind is clear and unhindered, any season or place is a good one. Wherever I am, alive at eight decades and more, with good health during a serious pandemic and strong energy, seems short of a miracle and true blessing.  At the same time, I'm aware of others not as fortunate, grieving for loved ones lost, struggling, confused and drawn into an atmosphere rife with anger, division and hatred.  

And, even in what seems heavenlike, there is sadness. My only living brother who passed away in early 2020 made me an orphan as he joined my parents and other siblings to a shore welcoming the dead. Besides my brother, other dear friends recently passed away, creating more sadness and the need to reach out to loved ones and friends, expressing my love for them. The year of 2020 seems a lost year for many, even dreamlike, as we attempted to keep in touch digitally. For others it produced more creativity in music, painting, writing, poetry, and published works of fiction and nonfiction. 

Before the pandemic, after the publication on Wife, Just Let Go I was encouraged to share my experiences in caregiving for my husband who had Alzheimer's. To those who are struggling with your own caregiving experiences, take heart in knowing that your loved one is still with you and there are still  ways to express the profoundness of your own love. If you've already lost your dear ones, please know that in honoring them in their transitions, you lift your own sorrow. Shifting the focus from yourself to your loved ones, blessing them with ease and peace, blesses you too in your union with each other.

I encourage you to reach out to me if you've any questions. I will be happy to help.

Just now, the tears shed express a profound love rising from your heart to theirs.




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In the summer of 2021, I shared some insights into my practice of Zen and Tea (Chado) with Seattle Watermoon Dojo (One Drop Zendo, Seattle).

Below is a flyer created for that event. Since it has already passed, for those who wish to hear this talk, they can do so at: www.watermoondojo.us




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Friday, May 24, 2019

NEW EVENT COMING UP WITH DIANA SALTOON AT BRIGHTWAY ZEN CENTER, BEAVERTON, OR


Guest Talk: Diana Keishin Saltoon-Briggs

June 9 @ 11:15 am - 12:15 pm


Guest Talk at BWZ

Join us for a talk on June 9th with Diana Keishin Saltoon-Briggs where she’ll be discussing Zen, Japanese Tea Ceremony, her book Wife, Just Let Go: Zen, Alzheimer’s, and Love, and more.
Diana’s Bio:
Diana Saltoon has traveled extensively, studied yoga, and in the 1970s developed a program that dealt with modern stress. Her interest in Zen led to a study of Chado, The Way of Tea, as a Zen art and received a certificate of Chamei from the Urasenke School in Kyoto, Japan. Diana became a teacher at the Portland Wakai Tea Association in Oregon before moving with her husband, Robert Briggs, to New York in 2011. They returned to Portland, Oregon, in 2014. A member of Zen communities in Oregon and New York, Diana continues to give presentations, classes and workshops on the Zen Art of Tea. She is the author of Tea and Ceremony: Experiencing Tranquility (2004), The Common Book of Consciousness (1990)and Four Hands: Green Gulch Poems (1987).
Below is a bit more about the upcoming talk in June:

EXPLORING THE JOURNEY OF A CAREGIVER – OPENING TO LOVE, STRENGTH, AND ACCEPTANCE

“To love what is” – is easy to say – however it means placing a great faith in love. Whether we’re caregivers or anyone facing emotions of grief, anger, hurt or sadness, abuse or depression, ultimately it’s love that soothes the aching heart. Even Einstein – admitted about the universal force of love.
In Zen, we don’t talk much about love perhaps because love is a given – like air and light –
We know that besides air, food and shelter, we need relationships – from birth to death – life evolves in relationships with each other and nature – showing us the truth of nonseparation and the natural love that arises with this experience
We think of Alzheimer’s has a devastating disease. I’ve experienced it as so as a caregiver for my husband who passed away from Alzheimer’s.
But something happened when I joined Robert on his Alzheimer’s path, feeling as he felt.
When memory is lost
The discovery of an immense heart emerges
Thus Alzheimer’s brought my husband and I an essential gift – placing a great faith in love
Love that transcends conditions and measure
Love beyond the individual self
The journey of a caregiver also brings grief. But I learned that grief is an expression of profound love within that is never exhausted.
Exploring grief and all its related emotions, I’ve learned that when held with compassion, I’m able to release them into the spaciousness of peace and love.
Another gift of Alzheimer’s besides placing a great faith in love – is that Robert brought an instant connection to the Now – and to the true experience of our lives together.

Friday, April 5, 2019

MOVING TO MAUI (2)



Two weeks in my new place in Maui and simply loving it. Have met new friends and have received all kinds of help from ones I’ve known a long while and any problem seems to disappear with the breeze that enters in, lifts and takes it away. 

The ocean calls and invitations are open to any and all adventures. In the wake of exploration, may I continue to find ways to share my love of tea and Zen in Hawaii. I’m also learning beautiful Hawaiian phrases that express the aloha spirit beginning with learning that the word “aloha” means more than hello and goodbye but has a deeper and wider meaning that encompasses the cultural spirit of the people. One of their phrases that I particularly like is: "Mohala I ka wai ka maka o ka pua – which means “unfolded by the water are the faces of the flowers” – I like to think that each of us is a flower –unfolding in the waters of life ...



Hawaiian Golden Trumpet


Hawaiian Orchid (Housewarming gift)